Monday, April 27, 2015

Corolla 2015

For the past twenty years, we have joined a group of 23 to 25 people for a week in Corolla, on the North Carolina Outer Banks.  We rent two or three large houses, cook in, play cards, tennis and golf and visit with each other.  The week was especially meaningful to us because we moved from Mooresville last June where most of the Corolla people live.  It was great to see everyone again.

This year the wildlife was special.

Sand crabs abound on the beach, but they’re usually small.  Aloma saw a gray crab larger than two of my fists.  She said he was feisty.

A red fox seemed to include our house in his territory.  He/she was seen four or five times including peeking in the front door.  We heard that he often sleeps on the putting green next to the house.

Three deer grazed on the dune between us and the ocean last night.  Two were large and one was small, but larger than a fawn.  They were in no hurry.

On the way in last Sunday, we noticed a large flock of over a hundred ducks or geese flying north in formation in front of us.  We were limited to 45 mph so we stayed behind then for almost twenty minutes.

The usual porpoises, sea gulls, sandpipers and pelicans were daily visitors.

On our last beach walk, Aloma shouted, “A big bird just dived into the ocean right in front of us.”  The bird stayed in the water and fluttered its wings before finally taking off with a nice sized fish in his claws.  It was an osprey.  They usually grab a fish without staying in the water but a second or two.  Seeing this osprey dive so close to shore and so close to us was special.

On a sad note, a six-foot porpoise was dead and half covered with sand.  Some fool had spray painted part of it.  Aloma said she prayed for its soul.

We already look forward to Corolla, 2016.

Seasoned Man

Friday, April 17, 2015

Memory and Rungs To Heaven

In early February, I took our Lexus to AutoZone to buy new windshield wiper blades.  A young man helped me select the blades and then installed them.


All was well until the new wipers started screeching during a rainy return from Florida in late February.  Aloma also didn’t think they were as long as the ones we replaced.  She was not happy.


I finally returned to AutoZone yesterday and spoke to the man who sold me the wiper blades.  I told him I bought the blades from him in February, and I’m having problems with them.


He said, “They’re too short?  I wondered about that when we installed them.”


I told him they were too short, but the main problem was the noise.  Then I asked him, “How do you remember?  It has been two months.”


He said he just remembers things like that.  I said your mind must be cluttered with all that information.  Later, I suggested he should get a life.


He laughed so hard he ended up replacing the wipers with brand new ones - at no charge.


After shopping at Harris Teeter, Aloma noticed an empty cart except for a small white bag.  Several people walked right by, looked at the cart and kept going.  After putting her groceries in the car, she returned and looked closely at the bag.  It was a prescription bag with a $400 price slip.


She went back in the store and gave it to the pharmacist and explained where she found it.  He thanked her and said he would call the owner.


When Aloma told me the story, I replied that she earned another rung on the ladder to heaven.  She said, “Maybe just a couple of inches.”


We often joke about earning rungs to heaven and then losing them as quickly as we earn them.


Hey, a couple of inches here and there and you’ve got another whole rung.


Seasoned Man
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Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Pain - In Perspective

I recently had multiple surgeries on my head, face and chest to remove skin cancers (not the serious kind).  At one point, I had 34 staples in my scalp.  The doctor, using Mohs surgery, cut until microscopic examination showed all of the cancer was removed.  Some of the sites were over two inches long.

My tight skin tugged at the staples causing pain.  I complained to everyone, including a nurse (not at the surgery center).  She sympathized appropriately and then told me her story.

Her son was born with his head too small.  He had multiple surgeries to open his scalp from ear to eat to enable his skull to grow.  His scalp was held together with staples like mine.  A could of times, the staples pulled loose.  Finally, his scalp was repaired with a skin graft.

I felt so bad thinking of that little boy suffering through surgeries and staples.

I asked how her son was doing now.

She said he is now 16 years old, has a learning disability, hearing problems and a permanent stent in his brain to draw out fluids.  She went on to tell me he is happy, considerate and a wonderful young man.  “He is the best thing that ever happened in my life.”

Suddenly, the staples in my head didn’t hurt.  I even quit complaining (at least as much as I did before).

Seasoned Man

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Carolina Preserve Alma Mata

Aloma sings with the Music Makers, a choral group at Carolina Preserve.  The group puts on two sold-out musical events a year and always end their programs by singing the following song.

Where neighbors are friends - in Carolina Preserve
When fun never ends - in Carolina Preserve
Wherever we roam, we always come home,
Rounding the curve to Carolina Preserve
Days … working out at the gym - playing tennis till ten,
 Keeping busy with volunteering.
Nights, it’s time for a dance - time for romance and laughter,
Raise the rafters!
Our friends are for real - in Carolina Preserve.
We're young as we feel - in Carolina Preserve.
We travel the globe, we never grow old.
Keeping our verve - at Carolina Preserve
We're rounding the curve - to Carolina Preserve.
We’re taking that curve - to Carolina Preserve.

By Marjorie Budd, copyright 2009

I call the song the Carolina Preserve Alma Mata.  It is soo cute.

Seasoned Man

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Florida Experience

We left the cold and snow in North Carolina for our annual mid-winter visit to Florida - this year, Kissimmee.  The cold followed us and we had two days in the mid-fifties.  We took advantage of those days with a long drive to a favorite restaurant and the other cold day saw the movie  American Sniper.  Wow!

Other than the two chilly days, we’ve enjoyed typical Florida weather with temperatures in the 70’s and 80’s.

We were enjoying  a cocktail on our deck when a large hawk perched on a light pole about 30 feet away.  Since hawks are typically wary of people, we were quiet and just watched.  When it stayed, we moved around and Aloma took some snapshots.  Didn’t bother it.  The hawk spotted something on the ground and swooped down but came up empty handed and landed on a basketball backboard even closer to us.  It would turn his/her neck 180 degrees to watch us.  I whistled “Bob White” and it would quickly turn its head.  We went inside for the evening and the hawk left soon after we did.

The next day I called to Aloma, “The hawk is back and brought a friend.”  Wrong.  Two vultures were perched on the lightpole.  After a few minutes, they glided down to the ground and lay in the grass next to each other.  Weird.

If we see more wildlife in Florida, I hope it will be hawks, not vultures.

Seasoned Man

TomorrowStudy

Since we now live within minutes of two teaching and research hospitals, I looked for medical research studies that requested volunteers.  My first attempt didn’t work.  I was turned down for a geriatric study by the University of North Carolina because I was too old.

Later, I saw a notice for an alzheimer’s study run by Duke Medical School.  A partner was required so I asked Aloma.  She not only agreed to be my partner, but said she also would like to participate as a subject.  We could partner each other.

The first meeting involved over two hours of interviews and cognitive tests.  The study was explained in detail and a blood sample taken.

The study is a long term double-blind study using the drug pioglitazone, used for the treatment of diabetes and believed to delay the onset of dementia.  They explained the results of a DNA analysis of the blood sample would be used to determine whether or not we were accepted for the study.

Weeks after the interview, the study coordinator aanounced that Aloma qualified for the study, but I did not.  Aloma hit the ceiling.  “You got me into this and now you’re not part of it.”

They wouldn’t tell me exactly why I didn’t qualify.  My guess is I’m too far gone.

Aloma continued the study and is now on pioglitazone (or a placebo).  Meanwhile, I’m her partner and report on her mental condition every six months.  Bottom line of my report - she’s a lot quicker and remembers more than I do.

Meanwhile, Aloma has asked me not to volunteer for future studies that involve her.

Seasoned Man

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Disappointment

We moved to Cary to be near our daughter, Jennifer, and her family.  They have Christmas in England every other year, but this was the Raleigh year and we had lots of plans to be with them - Christmas Eve dinner at our house, opening presents at their house on Christmas morning, brunch at a friend’s house and Christmas dinner back at Jennifer’s.  We were invited to another party by friends of Jennifer’s and to her large party on the twenty eighth.  Aloma scheduled a hike on New Year Eve’s Day and Jennifer planned another big meal that evening.

We were excited when they arrived on Christmas Eve.  Aloma served a delicious dinner and everyone enjoyed the evening.  I had a scratchy throat and coughed a little but felt fine.  Later that night the cough worsened and I spent most of the night in a recliner.

I felt terrible Christmas morning but enjoyed watching our grandsons open their presents, especially their Xbox.  I knew enough to go home.  Aloma wouldn’t stay without me so we both spent the rest of Christmas and the rest of the holidays at home.  The doctor told me I didn’t have the flu but a virus worse than a cold.  It was awful.

Several days later, I passed it on to Aloma.  Instead of a hike on New Year Eve’s Day, we held hands to support each other and walked to the mailbox.

While we were disappointed, we feel fortunate that we recovered.  We understand over 140 people, mostly seniors, have died this from the flu in North Carolina.

We’ve also had two nice visits with Jennifer, Peter and our grandsons since the holidays.  And we’re back to our active routine now that the clubhouse is open.

We always have a smile “When we come around the curve to Carolina Preserve.”

Seasoned Man

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