Monday, March 20, 2017

The Window Box

Many years ago I read a story about a woman who loved gardening, tending to almost a half-acre of vegetables, flowers and shrubs.  Her husband had power equipment and was always there for her as she worked in her garden.  As she aged, the garden shrank in size and when her husband died, she only had the energy to cultivate a 10X10 foot garden.  Finally, when she was in her late eighties, her garden consisted of a window box outside her bedroom - but she loved it as much as her large garden of her younger days.  The day she died, she looked out of the window at her window box and smiled.

When Aloma and I lived in Pittsford, New York, we had a good sized yard that we planted in flowering trees, shrubs and flowers.  I had a thriving vegetable garden during the short summer and supplied vegetables  to our table plus to our neighbors.  Every evening after I got home from work, we would walk around the yard and inspect every tree, shrub and plant.  We loved it.

The backyard of our Mooresville, North Carolina home was wooded and steeply sloped to Lake Norman so our area to plant was smaller than in New York, but still large enough for wonderful trees, shrubs and plants.  My vegetable garden thrived until our neighbor’s trees produced too much shade.  We still walked the property daily to discuss what new plants we wanted and plants that needed care.

Our new home in Cary has even less space, but we have planted every inch of our mulched area and walk around every evening looking at every plant.  We love it as much was we did our New York or Mooresville yard.  When we return from a vacation, the first thing we do is inspect our plants.

Someday, I hope we will have a window box to look at as we go to sleep.

Seasoned Man
stevelem117@gmail.com

Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Magic Of A Vacation

Yesterday, Aloima said, “Just a week ago, we were driving home from our vacation.”  The week went by fast and was full of activity.  The memory of the vacation is there but is already a blur now that we’re back in our regular lives.  I even wondered if a vacation is worth the cost if the memories fade so quickly.

But then I remembered when we left for vacation.  Aloma was in a lot of pain from her hip replacement and fractured femur.  She was discouraged and weak from inactivity and used two crutches to get around the house.  During the two weeks in Florida, she went to the pool every day, first on two crutches and then on just one.  On the last day, she walked without a crutch and even climbed a flight of stairs to our unit.  She walked in the pool , did her exercises and then soaked in the hot tub every day.  Soaking up some sun rays didn’t hurt either.

Aloma was a different person when we returned.

My job of caretaker was difficult, but I thought I was holding up well.  When I got home from vacation rested and energized, I realized how tired and beat-up I had been.

Was our Florida vacation worth the cost?  It was not only invaluable, it was magic.

Seasoned Man
stevelem117@gmail.com

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Like Riding a Bicycle

When we were married, Aloma announced, “I sleep on the right side of the bed.”  Okay.  No problem.  It didn’t matter to me.

For the next 40 years, whether we were home or away, Aloma slept on the right side.  Before her hip surgery, we talked about switching sides.  The bathroom was near the left side so she wouldn’t have to walk around bed to get to it.  So a week before her surgery, we switched sides,  and had a terrible time sleeping.  You wouldn’t think the side of the bed would make a difference, but it did, for both of us.  The first night I got up in the middle of the night to go the bathroom.  I came out and started to get in my normal side of the bed.  I startled Aloma and she asked what I was doing.  I tried to cover up by saying, “I’m just pulling your spread up.”  She didn’t buy it.

By the fourth night, we adjusted and were sleeping normally.

Seven weeks after her surgery she announced she wanted to go back to her side.

We were both prepared for another few nights of tossing and turning before we got used to being back on our normal side.  Not so.  We slept great the first night.

Changing back to your normal side of the bed is like riding a bicycle.  Once you learn, you never forget.

Seasoned Man
stevelem117@gmail.com